Many people seem confused of late about what Cafe Primrose is, and what I do out here at Wildflower Farm. We have grown a lot since the old days when I was the tiny blog that could, with a following of about 6 and nothing but prayers to the wind, that my little blog could become more than that. Many people who follow this blog have not been with us since the hard early days in the beginning when I was crafting on my little kitchen table. Back in Vienna Austria. So, I would like to clear up a few misunderstandings for some of the newest people who find my little “cafe” of crafts to be of “interest.”
1. Cafe Primrose is two things. NEITHER OF WHICH IS A LITERAL CAFE OR RESTAURANT OF ANY KIND! Cafe Primrose is JUST A NAME I use for my CRAFT studio and business on Etsy. It is also the name of a BLOG that kind of goes along with my handmade craft business on Etsy. Here on Randall Road, that is ALL it has ever been. That is ALL it has ever been everywhere else as well. A blog and a little online craft shop that ships hand made objects that I create, out around both the country and the world. Here we are on Etsy. To drive a business on Etsy, one needs to keep and maintain a social media page for it. Here we are on Facebook. In addition to this I keep a relatively inactive page for my small farm and sometimes guest house Wildflower Farm on Facebook. And of course I tie it all together under the heading of Wildflower Farm, where the blog, and sometimes guest house come together, so that I have everything in one place more for my own benefit than for any other reason. I encourage you to look into these websites, and note how hard I have tried to play up this little community I fell in love with not so very long ago. How I try very hard, to promote not just myself but everyone here with something to offer. Even here on the Blog, look at my Services I Love page…
2. I call my home Wildflower Farm, to honor the wild flowers that make this place beautiful. It is just under 5 acres of land and is set far back from the road. Sometimes we take in guests and give them a bed to sleep in on occasion. Not regularly, every now and again. Once in a while these guests are international. More often than not they have been family to people from the area in town for one reason or another looking for a place to stay because their relative’s home is too full or too small to accommodate them. We have complied with all laws that we were told about immediately upon being told. We have changed our business model in several ways, and in some ways we have chosen not to change and offer our reasons why.
A. We use the term B&B weather there is breakfast set out on the counter for those who want it or not, partly because, through our main venue of renting out space they have branded us that way and there is no way to un-brand ourselves that way through their system. We use this term elsewhere solely to cut down on confusion for others as a result of our branding by our primary system of renting which we have no control over.
B. I have stopped selling certain products in my Etsy shop that I DID NOT KNOW were objectionable, until I was contacted about it and told. Immediately those were gone in compliance.
C. We complied with a number of other issues when informed they were issues, and we did so not within the month, or the week or a 72 hour block of time. We made these changes to comply within the hour of notification of the issue.
Now let me tell you a bit about what Cafe Primrose is and what Wildflower Farm B&B is. Cafe Primrose, is a fairly established little craft business. A name change would be very detrimental and difficult given I own this domain name for Cafe Primrose. Because I take in the occasional nightly guest here at the farm, I spend about $1250 on my web presence a year. Most of that gets spent $100 monthly to keep my site for Wildflower Farm B&B up. This site helps me generate a pool of potential occasional guests who pay nearly nothing (less than $50 a night) to stay here. They enjoy the farm and small town experience.
For this reason, it makes sense for me, to promote other local businesses on my dime with my web presence. That means as a result of having me here, this town and many if not all the businesses in it receive what I get, paying $1250 a year, at no cost to them. $1250 of web presence and free advertising a year is what I give to this town plus I pay my taxes. Not a bad deal at all, and a deal I do not have to extend to the local community. I do it, because I love this town and the people in it.
If I stop hosting my occasional guests, there will no longer be any purpose for me to promote the town or it’s businesses. It costs me money to keep up my web presence and I would no longer benefit from it. Not that I benefit very much now as it is… But total loss of benefit from my web presence I would be forced to cease paying for it. And not only would I be losing out but local business other than myself would be losing out too. I have worked very hard to make sure I am not the only one to benefit. The town and the other local businesses benefit also.
For this extra $1250 a year I pour into this town by promoting and advertising other town businesses along with my own activities, I have asked for absolutely nothing in return except to make this town my home and to use the house I bought and paid for the way I wish to. And, last time I checked providing a bed was not illegal.
My *1* guest as we only have 1 guest party stay here at a time on an occasional basis because we use 2 of our 3 bedrooms for ourselves, has never in any way had a negative impact on this town or it’s people or businesses. And every day someone is here, they ask me where to get Coffee…. Where to get vegetables? Where to get whatever…
And I say to them, “well, for Coffee, you go down to the Lowe’s they are so nice there and they have great coffee.” For vegetables, “There is this wonderful little farm called Indian Head, they often have vegies, they are great.” I could just as easily send them to Bolton and Bolton Orchard, or to The Market Basket, and to The Dunkin Donuts in Hudson. I think it is clear that if anything in addition to $1250 worth of free advertising a year and asking nothing in return, my occasional guests bring money into this town and they spend it here, because that is what I advise them to do.
I love what I do, offering the occasional bedroom to a guest. And mind it is just *1* room. I am someone who has tried to befriend and promote my local community within my web presence so that others here in town benefit from my being here. I have offered to teach a class on how to do exactly what it is I do, down at 19 Carter, so that anyone and everyone, can try it. Often I get requests for a room and I don’t have space. Others could benefit from that, I would be happy to have someone to recommend to occasional guests that I am unable to accommodate. I have done all I can to work with this community, build it up and promote it on my web pages, all without even having to be asked, because I am a good neighbor.
Now, while we are getting into the nitty-gritties of this thing…. I am being attacked over my septic tank. CSI Septic was here not long ago. My septic is working perfectly thanks to them. I know it is working great, because they left. They are so good they don’t leave a job until they find the problem and fix it no matter how long it takes.
I would also point out that septic tank size goes by number of bedrooms. And in MA I do believe and if I am wrong then my apologies, that a bedroom has to have both windows and a closet and be of a certain size. This house is a 2 to 3 bedroom house. 3 bedrooms if the closet part does not apply. One of those bedrooms may even be under the size requirement to be a bedroom. It is tiny, and it has no closet. This house, has a septic tank to accommodate 4 bedrooms. We don’t even have a fourth bedroom. We may not even have a third bedroom due to lack of closet and small size.
WE HAVE NO PLANS OR DESIRES TO ENLARGE THIS HOUSE BY ADDING MORE BEDROOMS! We are very happy with our size and scale, and with our occasional guest who stays in the other bedroom of our 2 to 3 bedroom house, with a septic tank to accommodate 4 bedrooms, that is in perfect working order.
All this information and more, is not and never has been a secret. Besides use of a word for my CRAFT STUDIO, I have in no way presented myself as a restaurant. And in using the word as a name that was not my intent. It was merely my intent to brand my little craft studio and Etsy shop cutely, and call to mind things that people like. Such as a soft atmosphere and warmth and friendliness.
I am a home maker and homesteader, if someone had come by, I would have seen them. I don’t drive so I almost never go out during the day. I am stuck on this rock once my husband leaves for work 98% of the time. So I know when people come to the house. And I know too when they don’t.
So I can safely say, without ever coming by, without a noticeable influx of new traffic to this address, without people claiming to have come to the non existent cafe for breakfast down in town, people have clearly been talking. They have convinced themselves of something factually erroneous about what my home is and how it is utilized. They seem for some inexplicable reason to think I am running a cafe restaurant out here. I am doing NOTHING OF THE SORT! And I NEVER was doing anything of the sort!
Let me tell you about my home. I live here with my husband, our 2 dogs, a few barnyard animals and a friend of ours who rents long term one of our 2 and a half bedrooms so she can pay off student loans faster. In addition to our own bedroom and her tiny closetless “bedroom,” there is only one more bedroom. Which sometimes my mother or husband’s family from Finland stays in when they visit. Yes, sometimes someone else stays there too occasionally.
My table is set for a max of 4 people, and, IT IS THE *ONLY* TABLE FOR EATING IN THIS HOUSE, (some restaurant.) Setting a big table like this one just looks stupid when set for 2 or 3 place settings, which is why we set it for 4 rather than 2 or 3. You all know my table. It used to be in the formal dining room that has been turned into my crafting studio and is presently a big mess of crafting stuff. This table has been moved from there to right by the kitchen in the little eating nook between the kitchen and the second sitting area. (I know many who misunderstand how I utilize this house are familiar with this lovely table and my home’s lay out. The table was here at the Christmas parties you used to attend here, and THE LAY OUT HAS NOT CHANGED! I like the tradition of the old Christmas parties that used to be held here I might want to bring them back slightly modified when we finally get our home as together as we would like to make it.)
MY HOME HAS NOT CHANGED IN SIZE since the old days of the Christmas parties. In fact, much of the old furniture is still here too. THE SIZE OF THIS HOME IS NOT GOING TO CHANGE TO ALLOW FOR MORE OCCASIONAL GUESTS. Because I don’t tend to hire cleaners. I do it all myself, and I don’t feel the urge to work any harder than I am already working. So there will NEVER EVER BE MORE THAN *1* GUEST PARTY STAYING HERE ON AN OCCASIONAL AND IRREGULAR BASIS. THIS IS NOT AND NEVER WILL BE THE MARRIOT!
Any one who came out here would have been welcomed into my home as a neighbor, to see for themselves just how I utilized my home. They would have been offered something to drink as a courtesy, not as a cafe restaurant beverage, BECAUSE THERE IS NOT AND NEVER HAS BEEN AN ACTUAL CAFE OR RESTAURANT HERE. We have good manners though so we would offer a drink, we weren’t raised by wolves. I should hope good manners would never be criminalized.
Perhaps, before talking about something it might be prudent to do the research on what you are talking about, such as looking into it online and sending someone to check out the location of this giant evil criminal cafe that doesn’t exist. And I know no one came for the reasons I already expressed, I am already here and with a drive way like mine I would have seen you coming half a mile away.
Now, You are in danger of running someone, who only wants to contribute, out of town. A person that has helped at least one Berlin high school student pay for college. By giving them a part time job as a craft studio and household assistant, and over paying them massively as much as possible, because college is important. A person who hires help only locally and preferably from within town. I also try to use only town businesses and only go outside of town when I can’t find what I need right here in town. So that good things stay in the town and more good things make their way into the town to be spread. I can always go do that in Bolton, Harvard, Princeton, Lancaster or Sterling. But I chose this town and I would prefer to do that here. If people can stop talking about something they haven’t researched, long enough for me to be able to do what I do…. Well, that would be really really nice.
About me, I guess I am unusual in a small farming town. I am highly traveled and I grew up in a Buddhist hippy commune. I don’t attend the local churches (and yes I do realize this very likely may be part of the problem for some people in this town, when it comes to me and why this has been made an issue.) I do sing and would love to join the choir. I majored in voice for a while in College. I did call and leave a message, no one ever got back to me though, ball’s in your court. I have been in both churches, I love the little late summer festival the brick church holds at the start of apple season. Every person I met was absolutely kind and wonderful and very very nice. So I know for a fact, most of the people in this town are absolutely wonderful.
I realize I am a bit different for a community like this one. Most describe my personality as being the inspiration for the sitcom, Dharma and Greg…. My background is unusual. Which actually makes it hard for me to be at home anywhere in this world, and this is a secret I don’t often share, but I am going to share it with all of you…. Because I am hoping maybe, I can finally have the home I always wanted here with all of you.
You see, in this community you have a shared culture. The way I grew up and where I grew up I only have that kind of shared culture with one other person on the planet. And she lives in Washington on the other side of the country, which makes her closer than she has been in a long time while I was on the other side of the world. As you can all imagine, it is lonely.
So, I reach out to promote a place I want to build a home in. I try to build up this community that I have chosen to make my home. And all I can do is hope that you will accept me for who and what I am. Because I have loved all of you, since the first day I came to this little town and looked at this little house. I knew, it was the place I wanted to end my years and years of international wandering. It was the place I wanted to settle down, and raise some goats and get chickens and just live….
You may not know me yet, but I can tell so much about all of you, every little aspect of this town tells me who you are. And I am so impressed. I hope I can find a soft place to fall here and that what I do at my craft studio Cafe Primrose (NOT A LITERAL CAFE OR RESTAURANT) and with my single room sometimes farm “B&B”, can prove beneficial to far more than just me. I hope that you can all find a way to slowly come to love me as I fell head over heals in love with all of you, the first time I drove through the town center.
There have been some misunderstandings lately, and I hope this post clears them up. I even supplied photos of what Cafe Primrose is. Look, just a little craft booth. NO cafe. NO restaurant. I do host a craft circle here that meets Monday evenings around 7:30 pm. Please, come sit at my errrr “restaurant” that isn’t a restaurant and craft with me and the few other circle members. You can see exactly how this place is utilized with your own eyes if you want to. We have always been an open book which is why I am shocked by the reaction and the accusations that have been leveled at us based on a complete and total lack of investigation, simply due to the name of a crafting studio… And I repeat for those interested in crafting please stop by for the weekly meeting see for yourselves how I utilize my home. It will likely bore you though, since it is just a house with 3 regular occupants, some crafting, and a lot of indoor and out door pet loving. Nothing really beyond that. I hope this takes away the mystery and does something to quell the ridiculous and out of touch with reality gossip.